Written by Ashley Okooboh-Stewart, Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, Clinical Supervisor

The transition into fatherhood is often framed through the lens of being the family’s “rock” or provider. The responsibilities of a father are not easy and the related symptoms of being “the rock” are sometimes overlooked. Statistics reveal that many fathers navigate this journey with significant mental health challenges. Approximately 1 in 10 men experience perinatal mood and anxiety disorders (PMADs), with 10% of new fathers scoring in the moderate to severe range for depression. These symptoms typically peak between three and six months postpartum.

How do Fathers Experience Postpartum Issues

It is not just about the stress of a new baby; the experience is biological and psychosocial. Research indicates significant hormonal shifts in fathers, including decreased testosterone and increased levels of cortisol, estrogen, and prolactin. Psychosocially, the pressure of financial responsibility, sleep deprivation, and feeling sidelined from the “circle of attention” can exacerbate these feelings. Unlike traditional presentations of depression, “masked” paternal depression may manifest as increased irritability, aggression, or social withdrawal.

Interventions and Self-Care Ideas

Prioritizing self-care is a clinical necessity for the well-being of the entire family. While fathers often underreport symptoms, with only 3.2% seeking professional help, intentional strategies can make a profound difference. Below are a few coping strategies to help with improving your mood and overall wellbeing. 

  • Sleep Hygiene: Combat chronic exhaustion by establishing a pre-bed ritual, such as a warm bath or avoiding electronics for 60 minutes before sleep.
  • Mindfulness: Utilize the 5-4-3-2-1 grounding technique to regulate the nervous system during moments of overwhelm.
  • Peer Connection: To decrease isolation, SAVI Therapy Group hosts a Men’s Group every Monday at 6pm. See website for more information. 
  • Values Alignment: Identify actions that move you “toward” your values as a parent to foster a sense of purpose.

To Dad: Your family needs you, and you deserve to feel whole. Taking care of your mental health is not selfish; it is the most loving thing you can do for yourself and children. Happy Father’s Day! 

At SAVI Therapy Group, we hold space for every experience—those celebrating, grieving, and healing. If you are struggling, remember that you belong here, and support is available.
Source: Postpartum Support International, www.postpartum.net